Any breakup is difficult to get over, but some are harder than others to step beyond. If it was a particularly long relationship or even just one full of passion and emotion, it can be especially difficult to move on. But there are some things that you can do to help make a difficult breakup a little bit easier.
HERE ARE 9 WAYS TO HELP YOU GET OVER A DIFFICULT BREAKUP
“Life always waits for some crisis to occur before revealing itself at its most brilliant.” – Paulo Coelho
1. MAKE YOUR HOME AN EX-FREE ENVIRONMENT.
Get rid of everything that reminds you of them. This is often one of the harder things to do, which is why it is the first step to help you get over a difficult breakup and move on with your life. If they are out of sight, they are out of mind and honestly, you don’t need that stuff around. Think of those things as bad juju and kick them out quickly.
2. DON’T IMMEDIATELY SUGGEST “STAYING FRIENDS.”
Yes, being friends with an ex can be great, but it isn’t for everyone. There is always going to be a need for time apart right after a difficult breakup to let both of you heal and move on. This time apart is crucial to allow any unreciprocated feelings settle before testing the waters of friendship.
3. IDENTIFY YOUR EMOTIONS.
A difficult breakup will tend to bring out a lot of emotional baggage. It is so important to let yourself just feel and acknowledge these emotions and thoughts instead of trying to block or numb them. It will hurt, and it won’t be all sunshine and rainbows, but studies have shown that this is necessary to allow yourself to really move on and grow.
4. LET YOURSELF CRY.
Along with number 3, during a difficult breakup, you need to let yourself cry if you want or need to. You need to allow yourself time to grieve the relationship. Crying is beneficial and healthy as it releases hormones that the brain needs and helps relieve stress.
5. CULL THE SOCIAL “DEMONS.”
Block them on social media and give yourself time away from it too. Posting about your relationship breakdown isn’t going to make you feel better and is going to be something you regret. If you wouldn’t want it posted on a billboard near the airport, don’t post it on social media.
6. BLOCK THEIR NUMBER.
Number 5 isn’t going to help if you can still “drunk call” them, so block their number. If you still don’t trust yourself not to call or text them after a difficult breakup, give a friend your phone for a time.
7. HIT THE GYM.
Exercise boosts endorphin levels. Endorphins make us happy. And a cathartic kick-boxing session has never looked so good.
8. EAT ALL THE BANANAS AND CHOCOLATE YOU WANT.
Exercise isn’t the only way to get endorphins and feel happy inside. Bananas and chocolate contain endorphin creating proteins, so go ahead and have the banana split with extra fudge sauce. You deserve it.
9. SPEND TIME OUTSIDE WITH FRIENDS.
This is kind of two tips in one. Getting outside is great for your health and will definitely help clear your head. The same goes for catching up with friends. Add them together and you are in for a good time.
There is no definitive quick fix to getting over a difficult breakup. As much as we all wish there was, everyone needs a different amount of time to heal and move on. So, give yourself a break and take the time that you need. Positive thinking will help (but let yourself feel sad if you need to). You know what you need to move on, so trust yourself and you will be back to your best self in no time – remember, be positive.