So you want to keep your man from cheating do you? In my experience men cheat for two reasons:
Both of these lead men to other women to give them what they need.
It might be a lack of affection, it might be a lack of love, that he doesn’t feel respected, it might just be that he wants that tingling sensation of being with someone who finds him sexy.
Being cheated on is not something any women wants to deal with, so if you learn how to keep him from cheating in the first place, hopefully you’ll never have to:
1. Take off the leash
If you outright forbid a man from looking at/meeting/talking to other women, he’ll go right the opposite direction.
The more strict you get with rules like this in your relationship, the more he’ll feel his freedom restricted and want to break them.
Women who are internally secure are sexy. If your man feels smothered by you, he’ll be more likely to wander astray to re-assert his freedom.
2. Pack out your own life
If you are prone to suspicion, ask yourself: Why are you spending all your time obsessing over what your man is up to?
If you want to keep your man, you need to surround yourself with good friends, hobbies, rewarding work.
In other words, keep your man from cheating by keeping your own life!
Let him realize on his own that you’re the only women he wants to be with.
3. Are things staying sexy?
I really hoped I could keep old clichéd dating phrases like “spicing things up” out of these articles.
But seriously, is there still surprise in your relationship? Has sex gotten tiresomely predictable? Have you got no new moves to teach each other (in and out of the bedroom!)?
One reason men cheat is because their life has become so dull they just need to go out and feel something different!
This is the need for VARIETY – But the great thing is, you can create that feeling yourself. Little gifts, new places, fun dates, surprise holidays – Keep your man guessing!
Think creatively about your relationship and keep mixing things up and your man won’t feel like he’s in Groundhog Day, living the same stuff over and over again!
4. Make him feel wanted
Men cheat because they don’t feel wanted.
Sometimes women get so caught up in a cycle of game-playing that their man starts feeling unappreciated.
Men want to feel like their woman still fancies them; it’s this need that gets satisfied when they sleep with other women.
When a man feels left out and unwanted in his own relationship, he’ll feel the need to validate himself by sleeping with other women to feel like a man again.
Hopefully cheating isn‘t a worry you‘ll have to deal with, but if you understand why it happens in the first place you’ll have the ability to ensure your relationship never reaches that position.
5. Don’t over accommodate
Sometimes in a relationship, a woman can become too accommodating.
Men get into relationships with a very clear picture of what a lifetime partner looks like and this is often in stark contrast to whom he may have dated casually. Women work to become the person their partner wants them to be and in doing so, they lose themselves. One day, their man realizes this is what he asked for but he isn’t sure it’s what he really wants.
Maintain a healthy sense of self in your relationship.
6. Make sure he knows how much you appreciate him
Sometimes when women “get” the guy and get married, they begin to get a false sense of security. Remember, all relationships are voluntary.
A person can leave at any time. With an over 50% divorce rate in this country, we need to remember how important it is to maintain a positive relationship, not simply to acquire one.
7. Be aware of your emotions
Whether or not we are aware of it, women are masters at using their emotions to communicate volumes without speaking any words. We communicate anger, rage, sadness, and disappointment that is received by our partners.
Instead of taking that as a cue to do something different, some men begin to look for another partner who idolizes them the way you used to. Don’t forget, your man wants to know he lights you up — not that he is constantly disappointing you.
8. Prioritize your relationship
Often, when a man cheats, you will find the woman is also having an “affair” that’s not sexual. It’s more socially appropriate.
This “affair” takes the form of prioritizing something, anything, over the relationship. This could be a job, children, a sick relative, a charity or anything that puts her man lower on her totem pole than the first position.
Prioritize your relationship over everything else. This is the relationship you want to last for all your life. Other things will fade away and the relationship will still be there if you tend to it carefully.
9. Learn his love language
If you are not familiar with Dr. Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages, please read it. It has the potential to save more marriages than marriage counseling has. Learn your man’s love language and speak it to him regularly. He will know he is loved and remain true to you.
10. Find his relationship pattern
I do not know how to combat the biology argument. Some men simply believe it is hard-wired into their genes to have sexual relations with as many women as they can. If this is your man, it probably won’t matter what you do. Try to recognize these men early on by asking about their dating history.
If this is a pattern with your man, he probably isn’t likely to change just because you love him best. Your best defense against this problem is to be discriminating at the onset.