Men accept the fact that there’s a (lengthy) rundown of what they foul up in bed with ladies, for the most part, because our sexual frameworks are more confounded than his.
Be that as it may, don’t accept this implies we can’t take the blame no matter what.
His climax may well be more programmed and ensured, yet that doesn’t mean he doesn’t locate specific sexual practices a complete turn-off.
In reality, men detest it when ladies are excessively loud when they’re in earshot of others, scratch his back and are excessively unsure about your body.
Here are ten things that reliably top his abhorred list…
Suggesting you watch porn together… then hating his reaction to it…
Advocating that you may be watching porn together… then hating his reaction to it…
Most women know this that many men watch porn on a reasonably regular basis!
Many women believe, OK, I’m going to accept this rather than getting all funny about it, and propose you watch it together.
What they don’t count on is playing second fiddle (ahem) to the person/people on screen.
Many men retain their eyes glued to the screen and it’s very likely he’ll do the similar even if you’re there with him.
‘I was also taken aback by how aroused he got,’ said one woman after trying it. ‘He didn’t ever get that turned on with me and it left me feeling sexually insecure.’
However many couples amused by watching erotica with each other.
Don’t take it as an insult if you’re going to try this if he gets absolute turned on doing it with you and don’t take it personally if his concentration remains stick somewhere else.
It’s not a personal rejection but it is his habit.
Being too noisy when others can hear
A little bit of moaning and groaning is fanciful however yelling, and beating is more than a bit scary for men as he feels like he’s trying to suffocate you with a pillow.
Apparently, it’s shameful.
You think he’ll like you being noisy because it means he’s a stud.
But he’s dying at the anticipation of having to face his flatmates/parents/kids/ neighbors.
Close on the heels of being too noisy is being too loud, very soon.
When you’ve just started by kissing, and there are exaggerated moans and groans will make him one hundred percent sure that you’ll fake it afterward.
Lying back and taking it
Lying back and thinking of England isn’t just dull, it’s patronizing. Not moving a muscle and intake on the ‘dead starfish’ position.It mentions that merely allowing him to have sex with you is enough of a turn on for him.
It actually is not, as no one gets hot in this way.
Going to the loo just before sex and not washing afterwards
This was the pet hate of my best male friend and his (now ex) girlfriend.
‘Me giving her oral sex was the basis of nearly every sex session we had but she’d think nothing of going for a pee just before, with the door open, and not washing either her hands or her bits.
‘I found it gross.’
Scratching his back
Scratching your fingernails down on his back in films is to show how excited you are with him.
But honestly, in reality, it hurts and is quite dramatic.
Being too self-conscious about your body
Covering, up, only doing it with the lights off, not letting him look and admire you – none of these behaviours will score you any points at all with any man (or woman if you’re gay or bisexual!)
Yes, we all have our insecurities and ‘fat days’ but if you’re a few months in and he still hasn’t actually seen you naked, you’re taking things way too far.
Body insecurities don’t just impact on his visual enjoyment, they often mean you won’t try certain positions and are generally unadventurous in bed.
Women are way, way, way more critical about their bodies than their partners are of them.
If he says he finds your body beautiful, he does. Take the compliment and relax.
Only liking the missionary position
For many reasons women favour missionary position, as some good like it’s primitive and there’s lots of eye contact, some not so good as this requires the least effort from women and this position hides most of the women’s body.
When you’re making love to one person for the rest of your life it is hard enough keeping desire high, but when you’re forced to do the same thing in every single session it is impossible to like it.
Telling him when to orgasm
Begging him to hold off just makes him even more paranoid he’ll ejaculate pre-maturely; the resulting anxiety ensures he will.
You’re much better off letting him climax and then settling in for round two or getting your orgasm through oral sex.
Telling him to orgasm now sounds like a turn on but is often interpreted (correctly) to mean ‘Could you hurry up and finish?’.
Only dressing up when you go out
OK, so this isn’t something we do during the act of sex but it definitely rates as unsexy behaviour for most men.
‘My wife comes home from work in heels and pencil skirts and looks hot and sexy. But the minute she’s through the door, off go the heels and on comes the tracksuit.’
I hear this is a complaint often from men who lose the desire for their long-term partner.
Men are visual creatures and really do appreciate it if you make an effort to look appealing. As I’m not suggesting you watch a box set in an LBD.
Agreeing to have sex then acting like you’ve done him a huge favour
You know what the sex is shall be a mutually pleasurable activity and if you do not enjoy it then tell him what you need more and what shall be done to make it more exciting.
One man once told me.
‘Seriously, it was like I owed her after we’d had sex,’
‘She might as well have put out her hand for my credit card and made it an honest transaction.’