Trying to understand men is not that easy as they have all kinds of emotions and feelings. Especially when it comes to intimacy matters things become a whole lot more enigmatic. Men may project themselves in a certain way but will actually have qualities that will be completely different than what meets the eye. Understanding men better will not only enable you to have a better relationship with them but also improve your love life since you will be able to address the underlying issues much more efficiently.
Understanding their secrets will equip you with better knowledge of how and what to communicate with men to improve things amongst yourselves. You will be better disposed towards handling and resolving conflicts and increasing understanding which will lead towards more harmonious relationship. Following are some of the secrets we have unraveled for you to establish that deeper and more meaningful connection with your man without getting entangled in the web of mysteries men weave about their personalities.
It is often assumed that men are very confident of their role in the intimacy department. It is expected of them to take the lead and initiate the act of making love. However underneath all that bravado is actually a very strong urge to satisfy their partner. To give their partner the best experience they could and they will try very hard to achieve that objective. Some men suffer from too much anxiety and keep on looking for their partner’s approval. It may be bothering them as they want you to get the best experience out of your intimate relationship. On the other hand women may not be that much concerned with their role and will be less strained about proving themselves. If a man ever brings up this topic, it would be best to reassure them of their performance because it will make them be at ease with themselves. Once they are comfortable they will loosen up and actually enjoy the intimacy instead of being on a constant look out to dissatisfying you in any way. This will also make your intimate relations more natural and enjoyable.
Men take the matters between the sheets seriously especially when it comes to engaging in new positions that they might perceive as more satisfying. It is very important for men to please their partner and they will try different techniques that might work. If by any chance you feel that their demonstration is working on you and you do feel good about it encourage them. You may bolster them onwards by certain verbal cues like a little moan to make them know you are certainly enjoying the experience. Such verbal cues may go a long way in making men more confident of their performance and they will feel rewarded.
One other example that men are from Mars and women from Venus is the attitude towards intimate relationship. Women have this notion that first they might go to some romantic candle-lit dinner. Preferably go to some fancy restaurant. Then have a long conversation about random things which might come to their mind. Trying to establish that bond and special connection before they will be ready for some action. On the other hand men simply cannot wait that long as they are not thinking along those lines. They want a little less conversation and want to experience the practical side of intimate relations. As a woman it is understandable that you will take your time before getting intimate with your man but it is a major turn-off for a man. He might feel impatient and eventually start to lose interest. Men only need a slightest indication that things are getting heated up and they will be excited in no time. So it is better not to make them wait for too long and communicate readiness as early as possible.
It is often thought that men do not care much about their appearance and usually have no insecurity when it comes to their body image. What with acting all tough and hard it does not look they might be in any need of a compliment or that they even care about one. However reality can’t be far from the truth. Men are very conscious of their image, ranging from the way their hair looks, to their body shape and their facial features. If complimented on their appearance, it will add to their self-esteem tremendously.
If you are expecting men to show empathy and completely understand your point of view with a mere hint is never going to work out. Men do not think in that manner as they might be afraid of misinterpreting what you actually meant. Hence it is always safe to talk as directly as possible and let them know exactly what you require. To them problem solving is the only way to show empathy and that will be best achieved with open and direct communication.